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Detoxing the People Around you

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Alexandrian Mediterranean Sea (by Zein Designz)

As humans, we are affected by everything around us either positively or negatively. A good cup of coffee can lead to a great start for the day, whereas a stale cup can add misery instead. A nice walk along the shore can uplift our spirits, whereas walking through a crowded street can feel chaotic.

The people around us also affect us in many ways. Meeting good friends puts a smile on our faces once we approach them. Speaking to a confidant helps relieve stress and the burden of holding in all our worries and troubles. Meeting an acquaintance who seems to be pleasant also helps make our lives more interesting and pleasant.

And, of course, the people in our lives can also have negative impacts on us, our moods, and our outlook. The drama setters can throw you into a tempest of rumors, backstabs, and gossip. The self-interest seekers will suck out your energy and good will for their own gains.

And sometimes even friends and family can cause drama and turmoil for you. You may find yourself absolutely loyal to an acquaintance who shows practically no true loyalty or friendliness in return. Family members may pull you from each of your limbs to help them out with their own problems and their issues they can handle themselves.

Detoxify your list; clear out those non-friends from your life and only befriend those who have shown true companionship in your struggles through life.

You’ll start noticing your life feeling ever purer and clearer.

The Strangers You Call Friends

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For those of us who are kindhearted, generous, and well-intentioned, life is loaded with some very tough decisions when it comes to the people we consider friends and colleagues. We prefer offering help from exploiting others, and we prefer keeping in touch than cutting ties.

But life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. And it is a rarity to find people whose hearts are really worth a pot of gold.

Sometimes we get attached to seemingly good people. Sometimes, even when we know some ties need to be cut, we keep those ties tight thinking that is how we are destined to be.

But those around you need to be put in perspective and within the context of your life.

None of those around you, save your mother, was there once you gasped your breath and cried when you came into this world. Everyone was, at one point in time, a complete stranger to you and someone whom your inner instincts told you to be cautious around.

After a while, and after several interactions, some people became your acquaintances and colleagues, and a few of those gradually became your friends.

And yet, some of those eventually walked away. Even in today’s world of instant communication capabilities and social media, they rarely bother to greet you even on a weekly basis, and when a message from you pops up in their inbox, they reciprocate the gesture eons later.

If you are still reaching out to people of that nature, reciprocate their silence and, before you know it, you will realize that some of whom you called friends are, in fact, strangers or acquaintances at best.

Release Therapy

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Pigeons and Doves by Zein Designz

We all go through trials and tribulations in life, and most of us keep in the quaking pain and suffering for different reasons.

Either the problems are too personal. Or seemingly too complex to explain to those who only know us from the outside. Or we just no longer have the patience or energy to begin to explain what’s wrong.

But one of the best ways to ease the suffering is to release it from the confines of our bodies and souls.

And releasing your problems does not have to involve a outside party. But it does require some form of expression.

If you are currently dealing with a problem or a crisis of some sort, try wording it out into an audio clip or on to a piece of paper. Let your emotions flow. And keep writing or speaking until all your thoughts are all poured out.

Then listen to it or read it. You just might gain some new and fresh perspective.

From Afar And From On High

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Photo by Zein Designz

Perspective is everything. Towers and skyscrapers look like fancy needles. Magnificent monuments can look like miniatures. Long and wide rivers look like small streams from the sky. Large lakes look like small ponds from mountaintops.

From afar and from on high, entire cities look like small miniature models of human dwelling. And the people who dwell in them become microscopic and too small to pinpoint.

Those same people you quarrel with each day. Those people who distract your personal tasks and goals. Those people who, sometimes, keep us worried, confused, or suspicious.

From afar and from on high, they are but small tiny negligible spots on the earth.

Never let them get in the way of your goals, dreams, and happiness.

A Matter of Perspective

A Matter of Perspective

A Matter of Perspective

While people can be categorized in numerous ways, most people fit into one of two groups: Those who focus on the negative aspects of their lives and those that try to look at the positive.

Life is hard for everyone. Trouble lurks around every corner along our journey to wherever our goals are. And through that journey, there are two major options to take when looking at how your journey has been.

You can either focus much of your memory on the mistakes you made, the bad choices you took, and the negative personalities you had to deal with.

Or you can appreciate the progress you have made despite those shortcomings and negativity that surrounded you.

Great people in the past also had those two options. Had they resigned to looking at the bleakness that discouraged their progress, their names would only have been remembered by their friends and family, and forgotten once they reached the grave.

So whenever a negative thought crosses your mind, find something positive to throw your attention on to keep on moving.

Hope and Rebirth

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Rebirth

The concept of rebirth has always provided humanity with a sense of a new life and hope. Whether it is the idea of life after death, or the idea of the metaphorical rebirth from sin to purity, the idea of being reborn still provides much inspiration and motivation to us.

Even in everyday life, the old dies out and becomes new again. We fall into a state of unconsciousness every night, and become aware once again of the world around us in the morning.

Life kills our souls quite often. We fall into states of despair, hopelessness, sadness, sorrow, and depression at various stages in our lives.

Those are stages in life in which we must look into ourselves, let our old, tired, and feeble souls perish away, and bring life to a new self-realization that, so long as we can still breathe, there still is hope.

The Predator Mindset

The Predator Mindset

Photo taken by Schuyler Shepherd

On a hunt, a predator’s only focus is its prey. Nothing can steer its focus away from the target. Its life depends on that, and nothing will ever veer its eyesight or attention on anything, except for a larger predator.

Missions and goals in life are our prey; our target. And distractions are like birds fluttering around and pests trying to irritate us.

If you allow yourself to be distracted once, that prey – that goal or mission – can flee several miles away from you. Stay focused.

And should you ever be distracted, get back to tracking that prey down and go get it.

Overcoming the Walls in Life

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We live our lives with goals and dreams somewhere in our conscience, only to find walls blocking the paths toward them.

These walls vary in height, and width. Sometimes a wall seems so high it blocks the sunlight that shines from our dreams and aspirations. Sometimes it is so wide that it will seem like forever to go around it.

The next wall can be a wall of steel, concrete, or bricks, and the idea of penetrating it or breaking it seems practically impossible.

And sometimes a high and wide wall may seem impenetrable, but beneath the façade, it’s just plaster and sheet-rock.

However high or wide those walls seem, whatever they are made of, you need to cross over to the other side to reach your destination.

Whether you have to go all the way around it, climb over it, or charge right through it, do whatever it takes to cross over the next wall and get to your destination.

The Furnaces of our Lives

In this world, we are the blacksmiths of our fate.

And the problems, challenges, and conflicts that cross our path during our journey through life are our furnaces and molding tools.

And our thoughts and decisions are our raw material.

And it is up to us to either use the material, the furnace, and the tools to create masterpieces, or just give up on it all and toss ourselves into the furnace and let it burn us into ashes. Never to be seen or heard from again.

And as we create one masterpiece after another, we must expect to face even harder tasks and hotter furnaces ahead.

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