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Detoxing the People Around you

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Alexandrian Mediterranean Sea (by Zein Designz)

As humans, we are affected by everything around us either positively or negatively. A good cup of coffee can lead to a great start for the day, whereas a stale cup can add misery instead. A nice walk along the shore can uplift our spirits, whereas walking through a crowded street can feel chaotic.

The people around us also affect us in many ways. Meeting good friends puts a smile on our faces once we approach them. Speaking to a confidant helps relieve stress and the burden of holding in all our worries and troubles. Meeting an acquaintance who seems to be pleasant also helps make our lives more interesting and pleasant.

And, of course, the people in our lives can also have negative impacts on us, our moods, and our outlook. The drama setters can throw you into a tempest of rumors, backstabs, and gossip. The self-interest seekers will suck out your energy and good will for their own gains.

And sometimes even friends and family can cause drama and turmoil for you. You may find yourself absolutely loyal to an acquaintance who shows practically no true loyalty or friendliness in return. Family members may pull you from each of your limbs to help them out with their own problems and their issues they can handle themselves.

Detoxify your list; clear out those non-friends from your life and only befriend those who have shown true companionship in your struggles through life.

You’ll start noticing your life feeling ever purer and clearer.

The Strangers You Call Friends

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For those of us who are kindhearted, generous, and well-intentioned, life is loaded with some very tough decisions when it comes to the people we consider friends and colleagues. We prefer offering help from exploiting others, and we prefer keeping in touch than cutting ties.

But life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. And it is a rarity to find people whose hearts are really worth a pot of gold.

Sometimes we get attached to seemingly good people. Sometimes, even when we know some ties need to be cut, we keep those ties tight thinking that is how we are destined to be.

But those around you need to be put in perspective and within the context of your life.

None of those around you, save your mother, was there once you gasped your breath and cried when you came into this world. Everyone was, at one point in time, a complete stranger to you and someone whom your inner instincts told you to be cautious around.

After a while, and after several interactions, some people became your acquaintances and colleagues, and a few of those gradually became your friends.

And yet, some of those eventually walked away. Even in today’s world of instant communication capabilities and social media, they rarely bother to greet you even on a weekly basis, and when a message from you pops up in their inbox, they reciprocate the gesture eons later.

If you are still reaching out to people of that nature, reciprocate their silence and, before you know it, you will realize that some of whom you called friends are, in fact, strangers or acquaintances at best.

Release Therapy

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Pigeons and Doves by Zein Designz

We all go through trials and tribulations in life, and most of us keep in the quaking pain and suffering for different reasons.

Either the problems are too personal. Or seemingly too complex to explain to those who only know us from the outside. Or we just no longer have the patience or energy to begin to explain what’s wrong.

But one of the best ways to ease the suffering is to release it from the confines of our bodies and souls.

And releasing your problems does not have to involve a outside party. But it does require some form of expression.

If you are currently dealing with a problem or a crisis of some sort, try wording it out into an audio clip or on to a piece of paper. Let your emotions flow. And keep writing or speaking until all your thoughts are all poured out.

Then listen to it or read it. You just might gain some new and fresh perspective.

From Afar And From On High

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Photo by Zein Designz

Perspective is everything. Towers and skyscrapers look like fancy needles. Magnificent monuments can look like miniatures. Long and wide rivers look like small streams from the sky. Large lakes look like small ponds from mountaintops.

From afar and from on high, entire cities look like small miniature models of human dwelling. And the people who dwell in them become microscopic and too small to pinpoint.

Those same people you quarrel with each day. Those people who distract your personal tasks and goals. Those people who, sometimes, keep us worried, confused, or suspicious.

From afar and from on high, they are but small tiny negligible spots on the earth.

Never let them get in the way of your goals, dreams, and happiness.

The Predator Mindset

The Predator Mindset

Photo taken by Schuyler Shepherd

On a hunt, a predator’s only focus is its prey. Nothing can steer its focus away from the target. Its life depends on that, and nothing will ever veer its eyesight or attention on anything, except for a larger predator.

Missions and goals in life are our prey; our target. And distractions are like birds fluttering around and pests trying to irritate us.

If you allow yourself to be distracted once, that prey – that goal or mission – can flee several miles away from you. Stay focused.

And should you ever be distracted, get back to tracking that prey down and go get it.

Our Tempests and Drizzles

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Shipping in a Tempest of a Rocky Coast

Our lives have weather systems of their own. And while there are days when we take shelter from the tempests that come crashing through, there are also those drizzles that remind us, after we survived those tempests, to always be prepared for whatever comes our way.

As you walk through your path in life, as you travel along your journey to whatever your destination – whatever your goal, dream, or aspiration – is, you will have to endure those harsh storms to see the magical beauty of the other side of those tempests. And, sometimes, when it all seems like sunshine and clear skies, there will be some delicate drizzles that shower you with a reminder that the road is still littered with potholes and perils.

But you will make it through those tempests of pain and sorrow, and you will smile through those light drizzles of minor problems and conflicts, and you will smile when you reach your destination – when you turn around and look at that long journey and those winding and cruel paths you crossed.

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